Dating Tips & Reasons for Failiure

We have conducted some research with our 3 million global members! Heres what we found.

Why people fail when trying to hold down a relationship !

1. Dont show them your desperate People are put off by guys and girls going over the top.

" The nicer you are to someone, the more chance that person will lose interest"

A lot of our members felt strongly about this, and admitted they experienced this.

2.DO NOT pressure for a contact number, or personal details from the word go. A lot of our members, especially the ladies, felt that men who kept asking them for personal details even before taking the time to get to know them were on a road to nowhere. They felt men who put pressure on them were just desperate.

3. Don’t pay for everything on a date, go double dutch! If a person is genuinely interested in you, then they will pay for themselves.

4. Don’t keep showering them with gifts, as they will get used to it. Keep the novelty going. Let them appreciate you!

5. Don’t keep calling them. Constant phone calls, sometimes put people off. Again the "eagerness syndrome" is in display. Over eagerness puts people off. The majority of our members agreed, If you meet someone on Saturday night, not to call them first thing on Sunday! Give it a few days, keep them thinking. Keep them guessing! If they are really interested, they will appreciate you more if they get that call later in the week.

6. Keep them guessing. That’s right! Don’t show them all your cards. Let them into your life slowly. Showing and telling someone EVERYTHING about you will only work against you, as you will run out of things to show and tell them.....then they may lose interest.

7. Don’t declare your love to early. Many people regard love as sacred so make sure you learn their opinions about the subject before declaring.

8. Come on! Admit it ...we all love talking dirty! But there is a time and a place for it. Very rarely do men and women talk dirty to each other from the word "Go". The majority of our members, especially the ladies felt threatened by men who talked dirty from the word go, but when it actually came to getting intimate, they did not mind a bit of dirty talk in the bedroom! Obviously, there are a minority people who don’t mind talking dirty from the word go, so good luck to them! Our tip: Don’t make the 1st move on dirty talk, get to know a person first, save the dirty talk until you are both relaxed with it!

Check out one of our dating sessions for people who don’t mind a bit of cheeky talk. Click Here (link to dating page)

9. Meeting people. Until you trust the person, always meet in a public place! Tell a close friend where you are meeting up, get them to call you at a specific time to check you’re OK. Never meet a person until you’re totally sure. Ask as many questions as you can until you’re comfortable.

10. Communicate! Relationships fail because people know what they want in their minds ....but cannot communicate it. Think about what you want and say it in the best possible way. Remember, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

11. Don’t be afraid of change! Keep trying new things. If something’s not working, then CHANGE! Change is the key. Change your appearance, change your approach ...never stop learning.

12. Being intimidated of extremely good looking people! Don’t be! We know it maybe a bit intimidating to approach someone who you may regard as a "super babe". The truth is a lot of people see these gorgeous people, and are too scared to approach them! They are human too! They can get lonely too! If you don’t shoot, you won’t score! A lot of our better looking users, felt quite isolated and let down, as they think people see them as "out of their league" or "untouchable".

Our tip: Never stop trying. The truth is statistically, you may only win the heart of that special person 1/10 times. But never stop trying.

13. Each time you get a rejection, let it make you stronger. Statistically, you can’t keep on failing. If you let it get you down, only you will fail.

Our tip: Be positive, be confident and never give up.

14. Don’t be a prisoner to your thoughts. If you think you are not the best looking person in the world, then you are wrong. There is always someone worse off than you. If you think you are the dullest person in the world, you are wrong, there is always someone duller than you. Change your thoughts, think positive and go out to enjoy yourself. The positive energy you create will be felt by those around you.

15. Relax. Every one of us has a different way of relaxing. Whatever makes you tick, do it before you set out to find that special person. These are the top tips from our survey of Lets Try Online users.